I’m Not Boring. I Just Know What I Like.

This year I’ll be turning 29. That’s almost 29 years of getting to know me. Learning about who I am, what I am and where I am in all areas of my life and I am far from boring.

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Photography by Kaye Ford.


For as long as I remember, I’ve always been a strong willed kid. Whether that’s to do with the upbringing I had or the events that have happened in my life, I’ve always known what I like and what I don’t. In many ways that’s a good thing, not everyone has the ability to know themselves so well and I’m extremely grateful for it. It’s something that has almost certainly been solidified by age. It really is true what they say about age, you learn to love yourself, give less of a crap what other people think or care about what you do.

“I’m not boring. I just know what I like.”

There have been moments where I doubted myself. During my university years I struggled a lot with academia, I’m a creative person and studying a purely academic subject was hard but I learned that I can do things if I put my mind to it. I didn’t really drink or enjoy clubbing and have always been donned the ‘boring’ or ‘no fun’ one because I didn’t get hammered and drink too much. I chose to spend that money on travelling and exploring my photography hobbies instead. And I don’t regret it one little bit.

As I’ve gotten older and a lot more social occasions involve alcohol, like after work drinks, hen do’s and weddings, I’ve felt a lot more pressure to join in. However I’ve always stuck to my gut feelings. If I didn’t feel like going and heading home, putting my PJ’s on and watching Netflix instead, that’s exactly what I’ve done. If I want to spend my weekend eating snacks, writing blog posts and taking photographs for my Instagram, then why the hell shouldn’t I do what I want to do? Just because I know what I like or want, doesn’t make me boring and it doesn’t make you boring either. Knowing exactly what styles of clothes you love and suits you, doesn’t make you boring, it means you’ve got your own sense of style and we envy that in someone else but fail to see it in ourselves.

It’s about time we stopped doing things we don’t want to do and just believed in own wants and needs. Stop wasting time doing things you feel you should do when you could be doing things you actually want to do. Life is too short to put off your wants to please other people. Lets embrace who we are and own it. If you want to go to the cinema by yourself to see the same film 3 times in a week, do it. If you want to buy another floral shirt that’s similar to your other 5 shirts, do it. If you want to crawl into bed with snacks and binge watch an entire season of Brooklyn 99 instead of doing the dishes, then do it. Looking back you will never regret doing what you wanted instead of forcing yourself to do things you thought you should do.

Start living for yourself instead of others.

If you enjoyed this post, please give my Hello, My Name Is Tarnya or 2018: The Year of Less posts a read.



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