So the idea for this post is to write down some of the thoughts about settling down here and making it ‘home’.
The first thing I struggled with and still do sometimes, is the feeling of ‘home‘. I’m a very impatient person and seeing the house unfinished and not how I imagined in the daydream of owning my own perfect house, is something I struggle with sometimes. You really do have to learn to live in a constant state of ‘work in progress’ which I’m coming to terms with. There are the usual factors of money and clashing of ideas you had for the house but often you are lumbered with the unseen things that can’t be changed, like the shape and size of the house. You have an ideal in your head of what you want each room to look like but then you can’t have it that way because the room literally wont let you, then trying to deal with that and adapt is the next challenge. I recently read somewhere that the things that make your house a ‘home’ are not the new things you buy but the pieces that are given to you, which are turning out to be true!
The next thing I’ll say is the realisation that it is actually your own home, so when shit breaks, you need to fix it. You can’t call up your landlord or blame your estate agents for all the things you need doing to the place and rant at someone else to get it out of your system. It suddenly becomes yourself you are frustrated with for not doing all those little niggley bits that need doing or finishing off, oh and of course the cost that comes with this. We learnt this the hard way when we had to spend £400 right before Christmas to get the boiler fixed so we could get heating…but you realise that £400 is totally worth it compared to freezing your ass off.
I should move onto the positive stuff now right? Well of course you get to start buying amazing interior stuff. This is literally my dream. I’m obsessed with interior design, all different types and styles and picking which ones you want in your house is exciting stuff. It’s just hard piecing it all together without costing a fortune but I really do class this as a ‘hobby’ so I’m constantly looking around for pieces to fit into our home. Although I do like the clean and modern look I do find myself adding random little bits here and there to make it feel a little more lived in and loved. So as you’ll probably guess, the house will be a mixture!
The next point ties in with the previous one really, which is being able to do whatever you want. No more landlord saying you can’t mount pictures or paint something a different colour, you have the freedom to do whatever you want to the house. Get a dog, get 5, ain’t no-one to stop you!
Finally, realising you are paying towards something that you will own and will be your future is very re-assuring. Once you’ve gotten over the scary fact that you are borrowing about a billion pounds from the bank, you soon realise that paying a mortgage towards something you will eventually own is much much nicer than wasting half your earnings on rent every month. If you are lucky, in some cases this is cheaper than renting or you get a better space for a similar price.
This was a very long and rambley post, but I hope it was interesting!
Please let me know how you felt after buying your first home!